Simple things a man in love must know.
A woman’s love life is totally different from a man and a woman’s capacity for love both to give and to receive is greater; because a woman’s whole existence is made up of love. Love is simply the power drive of their lives. A woman always yearns to be cherished, respected, appreciated and loved as do men but with women it is everything. There is nothing a woman would do without love. A woman’s capacity to love can change everything politics or war cannot in thousand years, her love can articulate hope and renew trust in the world beginning from their relationships. Men who understand their women live like kings in time of plenty and peace. Husbands or boyfriends who understand and appreciate their women have fulfillments and this is a fact for so many men. When discouragement crashes a man and his hopes and dreams are crumbled, she could help him build another if she feels wanted and appreciated in the relationship.
Not only are women capable of showing enormous amount of affection but they also have a large capacity to absorb the same amount of love in return. The key to her heart lies within the hands of the man who offers to her; understanding and emotional security by returning that deep affection. Often, when a young man woos a young woman, he persists night and day with loving words and tender deeds. Once he has won her heart, he fails to recognize her intense need to feel loved on a day- to- day basis. Emotional security is the ultimate goal in a woman’s life. Therefore, a woman continually seeks reassurance from her man and those around her by asking them to do things they can easily get done because their willingness serves as a measure of love and regard.
Sometimes, women expect those closest to them to do what they want without being asked because women see this as an evidence of even a greater degree of love and attention. Consequently, she may not always tell you what she really wants done and if you as a husband, boyfriend, brother or a friend do not see fit to do the obvious they begin to show feelings of disappointment because she sees that as a failed test. Women can go a step further. Sometimes, a woman could deny what she really wants and or feels but if her partner takes her at her word, she feels disturbed.
Women rationalize that they must be so important to their partners that they should understand and meet their desires even when they are not verbalized. Women call this sensitivity, as much as that is observed in many ways, it presents a whole new challenge to those working in close proximity with them or even their husbands because verbal communication is the first most important way of getting your ideas and desires across.
If the man does not insist on doing what she denied she wants, she would conclude her man does not love her enough and her emotional security becomes threatened. Such unintended games causes tremendous uncertainty in the relationship or marriage. I understand the dynamics of communication and encourage women to learn how to verbalize their needs in an open and heartfelt way their partners could understand in clear words. On the other hand, partners including children or colleagues must recognize the enormous need on the part of women for emotional security. Some men think if they constantly told their mates they love them, sooner it would not mean anything anymore, so as a result of that false believe many men simply do not say those reassuring words. However, loving words spoken sincerely to a woman would always mean something special. If she responds with enthusiasm, you hit your mark and if she does not respond simply give it time and mean what you are saying to her. Surprisingly, some women do not say much or give any visible indication that they heard or understood the words but they are well documented for future reference. She will come back to it at a later date.
This does not mean the loving expressions were not needed; because, some women have been conditioned to hold in their feelings and only seldom respond with onward display of affection; But such messages would work if spoken in honesty, just give her time. There is a common mistake some women make which is hurting their relationships; some women expect their own husbands or boyfriends to be like others they may know or admire from far. Sometimes even characters in novels and movies. However, novels and movies often portray a distorted picture of the harsh realities involved in relationships as we all know.
The Chilling Twist
Measuring your partner to your parents, ex’s, friends or boss in the office is the real beginning of a bigger problem you are self-inflicting internally on yourself because your partner would never be that person. Every human being is an individual before they become your partner, comparing them to others is a way of dishonoring them in the way they are made. This may result in feelings of frustrations, unhappiness and bitterness. There are few things every man needs to know about women, you need more than just love to make things work, if you really want to make your relationship or marriage work. You must understand what a woman is and what she is not at the same time.
What women are;
- Women are lovers
- Women are friends
- Women are helpers
- Women are creators
- Women are keepers
- Women are strong
- Women are protectors
There is only one thing women are not;
- Women are not stupid
